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I found this online somewhere and saved it but now I cannot remember where it came from. I did not write it and don’t want to take credit for it. If anyone else has seen it anywere - please tell me so I can give credit where credit is due.
ETA: This is from http://www.drheller.com/fertility.html
Infertility is not simply a medical problem. It is a devastating psychological problem, one involving strong feelings of guilt, anger, shame, powerlessness, anxiety, isolation and alienation.
Dreams are shattered. The expectation of being productive and creating a family is very powerful for most couples and few are able to face the growing awareness of a problem without becoming angry at self or other. But that is only the beginning. Once the couple enters the medical system, they typically experience themselves treated like objects of study, not humans in pain. Their sex life becomes a scientific experiment, no longer an expression of love. It also becomes an act that is always going to be judged as a success or a failure, not as an intimate act. It is anything but intimate, since it must be done by a set of rules established by physicians and, like children, they must report in to get their grade. Only the stakes are so much higher.
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